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Free! Chapter 1 of Fearless Dating
July 23rd, 2010
From: Chris Deaver
In an effort to continue to spread the good word of Fearless Dating, we’re including in today’s post the first chapter of the book. Enjoy! And, feel free to share with friends and family!
Plan for Success
Opening Your Eye of Faith
Have faith to seek first the kingdom of God. We have learned that unshakable faith in the Lord enriches married life and love. Faith in Him increases one’s very capacity to love, both quantitatively and qualitatively.—Elder Russell M. Nelson
Maybe you’ve been home from a full-time mission for a only month or two and have recently happened upon the serious dating scene. Maybe you’re just arriving at that stage in life when you feel comfortable with focusing on dating as a real priority. Whatever your situation, you can surely relate to the feelings of so many singles we know and love. Yes, they want to have fun. And yes, they eventually want to get married. Some are doing everything they can to find the right person with whom they can settle for time and all eternity. Some may even be so anxious to have their dream wedding that they feel like they may have forgotten the real goal. In reality, there is a plan of salvation and exaltation for you, and dating has everything to do with it.
Preparing for success in dating is like making a great movie. It all starts with envisioning a great story. If the writer and director don’t believe they can make a great story, the whole thing will fail. Imagine the actors standing around on set, waiting to deliver lines and perform actions that ultimately lead them nowhere—no final destiny, no game-winning touchdown, no buried treasure, no fair maiden, and no crystal shores. It is an unfortunate end to what could have been a great “happily ever after” and yet, far too often, it’s exactly what happens to those who date without an ultimate goal in mind.
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God Bless the Broken Road
June 16th, 2010
From: Chris Deaver
There’s an excellent song by Rascal Flatts with these words:
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
(Bless the Broken Road, Rascal Flatts)
Remember that the Lord knows you, what you’ve been through, where you are in life, and He even knows who you will ultimately marry. He is preparing that person for you, as you prepare yourself for that person. And, you may feel that you are going down a “broken road”. But, truly the Lord is blessing that road to lead you to the eternal happiness you so deeply desire. So, get out there and date. Don’t worry about finding the perfect person immediately–know that it’s a process of elimination that often takes a great deal of time and effort, and dating.
In the Doctrine and Covenants, Section 58, verses 27-29, the Lord stated it perfectly clear when he said, ” Verily I say, men should be aanxiously engaged in a good cause, and do many things of their own free will, and bring to pass much righteousness;
For the power is in them, wherein they are aagents unto themselves. And inasmuch as men do good they shall in nowise lose their breward.
But he that adoeth not anything until he is commanded, and receiveth a commandment with bdoubtful heart, and keepeth it with slothfulness, the same is cdamned.
–Chris
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Julia Deaver, co-author of Fearless Dating, signing books at the BYU Bookstore on April 29th, 4-6pm
April 21st, 2010
Chris & Julia Deaver
Join in for this exclusive opportunity to get your copy of Fearless Dating signed by Julia Deaver, co-author of Fearless Dating. She will be in the BYU Bookstore on April 29th, 4-6pm (along with Women’s Conference at BYU). Julia is an engaging, amazing woman with a principle-centered perspective that she is excited to share. So, feel free to meet her and get your book signed!
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LDS Dating: The Strength to Choose
April 18th, 2010
One of the most important decisions in dating is to choose the right and stick to your standards no matter what. Temptations come, but they can never overcome you if you hold fast to the Christ-like decisions you’ve made, based on your covenants. As referenced in Fearless Dating, Chris had a powerful experience with temptation in his younger years that can be applied in dating. It’s found in this month’s The Friend magazine right here .
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Dating Advice from Steve Young
April 12th, 2010
From: Chris Deaver
Steve Young, one of the most respected quarterbacks to ever play in the NFL, also a direct descendant of the prophet Brigham Young, had his fair share of dating challenges. And yet, through it all, he managed to find and marry his sweetheart, Barbara, in the Temple for time and eternity, and is now blessed with an eternal family. What was HIS secret to success? In his own words, Steve says:
“When I was quarterbacking in the NFL, I often had to throw the ball over huge defenders without knowing exactly where it would land. At the time, my coach told me that this was something that required a leap of faith. By believing that the receiver would be there as I threw the ball, I was able to connect for touchdowns. Similarly, dating fearlessly takes a leap of faith, as well as following great coaching from Heavenly Father. You may not know how everything will turn out in the end, but by staying focused and listening to the Spirit, you will ultimately achieve success.
“I remember being single and what it was like to go through the experience of dating. I also recall feeling the desire to make the best decisions. One thing that I have learned is that going from single to happily married for time and all eternity takes effort and energy. Most of all, it takes selflessness.
“Dating is filled with decisions. And making the best decisions means being your best self and moving forward with faith. This book will help you do that. It’s a great playbook for true dating success. Loaded with advice from the scriptures and great examples, Fearless Dating can make a difference for any Single Latter-day Saint looking to confidently prepare for a great marriage.”
Great advice. And, a great plug for Fearless Dating– 
Chris
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